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Every day I Shuffle my Spotify Liked Songs playlist (42,043 and counting), then write how the song Synchronizes with my life and maybe yours ;)
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“It Gets More Blue” by Girlpool
Yesterday I went to guest poster and reader of the Shuffle Ethan Lipsitz’s event on the app Bright about going through the death cycle, which he wrote a bit about in his post earlier this month.
Ethan’s work details 6 phases of the death cycle.
PHASE 4 is PERMISSION TO LET GO.
Ethan had mentioned in his work, that death is not just bodily, it is also relationships, like friendships and business partnerships and marriages.
This song, from Avery Tucker and Harmony Tividad’s Los Angeles band, Girlpool, feels like it’s about the permission to let go of a relationship that is no longer serving the singer well.
Which is something I also worked on in my therapy session this morning before shuffling.
After two years in Phase 3 of Moving Through Grief according to Ethan’s work, I’d like to move to Phase 4 of Permission To Let Go.
I wish I could say that this Girlpool song ends with such a turn for its character:
And I'm still here
I'm always digging in trash
I can hear the train
As it moves past
But there are other songs in their catalogue where their characters do.
“Cherry Picking” by Girlpool
And when it all is over
When you are there and I am here
Truth is that I am working
For myself and only me
As The Fader's Shaad D'Souza wrote: "Girlpool write songs about change, and the things we gain or leave behind when moving from one part of life to another."
Or in GIF form:
Okay, that’s the two hundred and fiftieth Shuffle Synchronicities.